About
Professionally
I’m a certified life coach, lawyer, and entrepreneur, and I specialize in protecting children’s rights in legal cases that involve addicted and/or abusive parents. The core of my work is coaching recovering/victim parents, preparing them for court and educating family law judges, social workers and attorneys about the impact of parental addiction, domestic violence and coercive control on children. My experience as a certified life coach in the area of relationships and intimacy has given me unparalleled insight into how relationships do and don’t work. It has also given me the ability to comprehend which behaviors inevitably lead to friction and which behaviors are required for healthy and fulfilling relationships.
As an activist for children’s rights, I’m dedicated to preventing trauma on the developing brains of children and to advancing family law reform that protects children from multigenerational trauma transfer. My mission is to make people aware that addiction, sexual abuse, and domestic violence are generationally transferred, and to facilitate changes to the current family law system to protect children from the long-term effects of growing up with an addict/abusive parent.
Coaching individuals on how to use their voice, and how to discover and stand in their power, I guide through high-intensity situations, enabling my clients to experience what it feels like to navigate from a place of inner clarity and stability.
I’ve dedicated the past 11 years of my life to understanding how to heal family systems and unweave unhealthy relationship patterns. I personally continue to train in well-being practices, deepening my knowledge in healing modalities.
Personally
After graduating from law school at the University of Zürich, Switzerland, I realized that continuing to work at the family office wasn’t going to satisfy me. I’ve always been interested in bringing out the best in people, and I believe that no matter what kind of situation is at hand, the board can always be flipped at any given point. I left my family and the family business, thinking that if that was all that was available, then I wanted no more of it. If I was going to invest myself any deeper into the family business venture, then it had to be under continuous personal development.
My desire for a transformed and healed family took me to the U.S., where I had spent much of my childhood. In New York, I was living with a certified life coach, tantra and yoga teacher. Working in the fashion industry, catering directly to a female CEO, gave me insight into a corporate world with female leadership, allowing me to experience the difference between working at a gender-mixed office versus working at a nearly all- women business. Living with a coach, in addition to being coached, accelerated and deepened my internal shift, which quickly manifested in a different use of language and an altered understanding of the vocabulary I was using.
Intentionally creating new neuronal pathways and fortifying my limbic system, while acclimating myself to a new way of being, were part of the training that I received. Returning to the Zürich-based family office could have easily meant conforming with the “same old,” which was not an option for me. Inevitably, I faced challenges, such as figuring out how to create resilience without numbing out; maintaining my ability to connect and remain open while installing
vital boundaries for myself and others; and remaining nourished while confronted with burnout-inducing behavior.
Implementing my knowledge and skills while serving as a board member for one of Switzerland’s largest floor owner associations allowed me to witness the power of transformational management. A change in management’s attitude would have not helped me investigate where significant sums of missing money went. Essentially, change would have meant exchanging board members and admin with new people of the same kind. Knowing the difference between transformation and change is crucial in business as well as in private life.
Coaching individuals and couples, I witnessed how healthy and vital relationships became a natural conclusion once individual wounds got cleared out; wounds that if not healed keep attracting people and situations that reinforce grievance. I discovered that most of the friction in relationships is caused by triggered coping mechanisms that were formed as a reaction to endangerment to ensure survival. In a relationship, if the coping mechanisms of each individual matches, that interplay can build a tightly interwoven pattern of destruction. Unweaving unhealthy patterns with my clients became my specialty. Setting up mutual agreements with my clients as a way of holding each other to account in the future and guiding couples through the process of a naturally ending relationship were part of my work.
A specific category of client propelled me into my purpose; at the same time, I was experiencing motherhood privately. Individuals in very disrupting family situations came to see me, such as married women with children who were constantly told that there was something wrong with them, that they needed therapy and that they were mentally ill, while the actual issue was their partner’s drinking and substance abuse. Generally, any relationship could be changed if only one person transforms. But now it seemed that divorced individuals with children couldn’t live out their transformed way of being because the justice system wouldn’t allow them to. This observation had me researching. I began to link my coaching with law and science, diving into comparative law and history. There, I discovered the concept of family law transformation.
Coaching individuals and couples I witnessed how healthy and vital relationships become a natural result, once individual wounds got cleared out; wounds that if not healed keep attracting people and situations into presence, that reinforce grievance. Discovering that most friction in relationships take place due to triggered coping mechanisms, which were formed as a reaction to endangerment, ensuring survival. In a relationship, two individual’s matching coping mechanisms, can come such an interplay, that they build a tightly interwoven pattern of destruction. Unweaving unhealthy patterns with my clients became my specialty. Setting up mutual agreements with my clients, as a way of holding each other to account in the future as well as guiding couples through the process of a naturally ending relationship were part of my work.
And there was a specific category of clients, that would propel me into my purpose, together with experiencing motherhood privately. Individuals in very disrupting family situations came to see me, such as married women with children who were constantly told that there was something wrong with them, that they needed therapy and that they were mentally ill, while the actual issue was their partner’s drinking and substance abuse. Generally, any relationship could be changed, with only one person having transformed. But now it seemed that divorcing individuals with children, couldn’t live out their transformed way of being, because the justice system wouldn’t allow them to. This had me going into research. I began to link my coaching with law and science, diving into comparative law and history. Here I discovered the concept of family law transformation.